Lorri,
I’m sad (and sorry) that you’ve had similar experiences with your parents. I think it’s especially difficult when these relationships are with parents, because you have a certain obligation to them that you don’t necessarily have with friends or romantic partners. I’m glad you were able to find some peace, and that you too did what was healthy for you. Thank you for sharing your experience with me, and for the kind words. Much love and support your way!